Today’s post is for the mothers-of-the-bride! This is one of the most important roles on a wedding day and my wish is that all my brides will have special memories of all the wedding-related to dos. I know every family is different – I myself did not have my mom around anymore when I got married – but for those brides who are lucky enough to have their mamas on their wedding day, here is a list of Mother-of-the-bride duties that moms can consider helping with during the engagement and wedding.
Guest post by Mikayla St Clair
While a wedding is always a momentous occasion, it can be daunting for all parties involved. There are more roles to play and decisions to make than just the ones the bride and groom have. One of the most important roles is that of the Mother-of-the-Bride. Here is a list of Mother-of-the-bride duties that she is traditionally responsible for. Remember, these will all vary by family.
Help With Shopping Trips
Mothers traditionally accompany their daughters in their search for a wedding dress. Share in the joy of helping your daughter find the right dress and give her advice on what styles suit her best.
Be a problem-solver
Sometimes, issues will arise and the mother of the bride may be invited by the bride to act as a problem solver.
Know or Research Family Traditions/Artifacts
It’s often the role of the Mother of the Bride to bring up any religious or cultural affairs that should be worked into the wedding ceremony. She may also want to help supply the old and borrowed elements of the “something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue” tradition.
Pen the Perfect Invitation
Traditional invitations come from the bride’s parents, so the Mother of the Bride may be asked to give her input into the wording of the invites.
Help Manage the Guest List
The Mother of the Bride may want to help with RSVPs by having them channeled through her and cataloged online so she can compare notes with the bride.
Become the Default Contact in All Matters
The Mother of the Bride may be asked for advice on catering, flowers, planners, entertainment, venue, etc. She is, after all, often the confidante of the bride.
Bring Up Important Things for the Registry
Moms often know what the must-haves are for homes! And, they can help a new couple navigate through the process of building a registry.
The mother of the bride may be asked to serve as hostess during the wedding weekend festivities.
Help During Day-of Dressing
Helping a daughter into her dress on her special day is one of the most well-known, well-regarded Western traditions.
Escorting the Bride
It is perfectly fine for the mother to escort the bride down the aisle if the father is somehow unavailable; though Jewish custom has both parents handle this duty and sometimes non-Jewish families do it that way, too! Once she has reached the front of the church, most Christian weddings have the mother seated in the first pew right. She is seated before the ceremony begins.
Always Be There To Remind The Bride That She Is Loved
Regardless of the specifics of the wedding, the bride’s mother often gives the love and support needed during this momentous and emotion-filled day. Throughout a wedding day, emotions are at an all-time high and knowing she has someone to lean on will make this big life change easier for an excited bride.