13 Things to Do After You Get Engaged
You’re engaged! Congratulations! This is such an amazing time in your life! I remember like it was yesterday when Jay proposed. After my initial state of shock and “deer-in-headlights” look as my husband lovingly calls it, all I wanted to do was announce our engagement to the world and start the wedding planning! Once we had shared the news of our engagement to our friends and families, spent some time simply enjoying our engagement, and not worrying too much about wedding plans, we entered a period of uncertainty, as a lot of couples do. We felt pretty overwhelmed with figuring out what our day would look like and we didn’t think we could afford to have our dream wedding. We were on a roller coaster of bliss, confusion, joy, and overwhelm. If you can relate to that, I’ve put together some tips to help you decide what to do once you’ve celebrated with family and friends and things have settled a bit… and you’re over the initial shock of getting engaged! I hope this post helps you prioritize your wedding-related tasks!
Open a joint bank account.
Start saving! Keep a joint bank account for wedding-related expenses to help you easily keep track of contributions and expenses.
Insure Your Ring.
It’s the responsible thing to do =)
Make an inspiration board.
It’s easy to get overwhelmed after just a few minutes on Pinterest. There are so many styles, colors, and options for every single aspect of your wedding. Take some time to make an inspiration board to zero in on your wedding vision. Having an inspiration board will help you make decisions regarding every aspect of your wedding day. Learn more here: Why You Need an Inspiration Board for Your Wedding.
Choose a season.
If you weren’t sure what season you’d like to get married in before making your inspiration board, chances are you’ve narrowed it down by now. Review the images you’ve used in your inspiration board – these images will tell you the season you are naturally drawn to.
Figure out your budget and make a guest list.
This is probably the hardest part, especially if your and your fiancé’s parents haven’t already approached you about it. Money conversations aren’t easy but they’ll answer a lot of questions for you regarding wedding plans. The sooner you have a budget to work with, the sooner you can finalize a guest list and the sooner you can check this HUGE item off the to-do list!
Consider hiring a wedding planner.
Hiring a wedding planner was one of the best decisions that Jay and I made during our wedding planning. Check out this post if you’re not sure about this one: A Guide to Hiring a Wedding Planner.
It’s time to research venues. Narrow down your list according to the location, style of venue, your guest list and per person budget. Here’s some help with this one: NJ Wedding Venues.
Try on wedding dresses!
There’s nothing like visiting a bridal shop and trying on wedding dresses for the first time! Even if you’re not ready to order your dress just yet, trying on a bunch of gorgeous dresses will be a fun way to relieve some of the stress you might be feeling after venue-hunting.
Have a date night.
Don’t forget to spend quality time together. Have a date night and talk about anything EXCEPT the wedding. Focus on each other!
Choose a venue and set a date.
This one might be easier said than done. Or it might be love at first venue =) Either way, once you’ve nailed down a venue and you have a date, things will begin to take shape!
Book your photographers and schedule your engagement session.
Next, you’ll want to research and book your photographers. This might take a while because you’ll want to visit their online portfolios and meet them in person or via Skype. Take your time with this one because once the wedding is over, your photos are the only things that will remain. Remember that it’s really important to schedule your engagement session with your wedding photographers. Among the most important reasons for this are that the engagement session will allow you to connect with your photographers, see what it feels like to have your photos taken, and get images for your Save the Date!
Book your cinematographer, caterer, band or DJ, and florist.
Once your venue and photographers are booked focus on your cinematographer, caterer (if your venue doesn’t supply one), your entertainment, and your florals. Once these big items are done you can relax a little before focusing on the rest of the to-do list.
You’re at a great place now! The next round of items on the to-do list should seem easy once all the big ticket items are crossed off the list! Spend some quality time together and try not to do wedding-related tasks for at least a couple of weeks. You deserve it!
Are you planning an engagement session in NJ? Click below to get access to my free Engagement Session Planning Guide, designed specifically for NJ Brides! It’s full of helpful tips for your engagement session, a list of our favorite locations for an engagement session in NJ, advice on what to wear, and how to prep your groom!